Arlene Alvarez | Writer

ARLENE ALVAREZ I set up this blog a few months ago but had not had the time to publish anything.  Last week, I received perhaps the most divine intervention in the form of my daughter’s superhero essay (attached below).  More on this later…

My mission has always been to help women realize how amazing they are and I truly believe that we are all SUPERWOMEN.  If you go back to your school days, who got the best grades and were the best students?  GIRLS!  In the workplace, who are usually the most brilliant, disciplined, detail-oriented and ethical professionals?  WOMEN!  In most marriages, which relationships seem happiest?  Those affectionately and swiftly captained by WOMEN.  In families, which homes seem to grow and thrive?  Once again, those that are consistently nurtured by WOMEN.  This is not to say that a man cannot also do these things.  I have met many wonderful men in my lifetime that are the most amazing fathers, husbands and professionals.  I am just saying that in my opinion, we do almost everything that is important BETTER.  If men had to do all the things we do on a daily basis, they would never be able to handle it!

All my life I have longed to be a writer.  Instead, I have been working in the financial services industry for over 25 years.  I have successfully divorced the father of my beautiful daughters, found my soul mate (together for 12+ years), raised two wonderful daughters and a step-son and created a thriving financial advisory practice, all while getting in the best shape of my life, traveling lots and drinking copious amounts of wine (just kidding).  I am at a time in my life where I feel anything is possible.  I want to share that with you and help women everywhere elevate their SUPERWOMAN status.  We are so busy sometimes, that the last person we make time for is ourselves.  I hope that this blog will inspire you to grow, learn, play, enjoy your kids/family/friends/husband, travel, drink fabulous wine, exercise, travel, love and/or leave, dance and explore anything your heart desires!

I’d like to dedicate this first blog to my oldest and amazingly special daughter, Daniella.  Having been my first born, I made the bulk of my mothering mistakes with her.  I even got dressed up like the Tales from the Crypt Monster once to keep her 3 year-old self from waking up her little sister.  (I did warn her that he was going to come after her if she kept waking her up from her nap!).  Eighteen years later, she is still very, very scared of practically anything.  Anyway, the moral of the story is that we love our kids sooooooooooo much.  We want the best for them and we do the best we can.  We make mistakes and I am not going to sugar-coat anything in saying that the teenage years are definitely not a walk in the park.  But in the end, it is so worth it and the good you do, circles back to you.  Last week, Daniella submitted an essay for her Senior Human Relations Class.  Her assignment was to write an essay on her idea of a superhero.  You can imagine my surprise to see that she wrote it about ME.  I still can’t read it without bawling and I am grateful for her love, her amazing way of being and for being the instrument that divinely inspired me to begin my lifelong dream of writing.  She is a SUPERWOMAN in the making!  Read on…


Daniella A. Gomez

Mrs. Stalnaker

Human Relations Honors

When I think of the word “superhero” three traits come to mind: brave, smart, and strong. Funny thing is, whenever I think of my mom, the same three traits pop up in my mind. From being a single mom to working 9-6, my mom has everything down pact. Even though things haven’t always been easy with us and I probably have never told her how I feel, she’ll always be my hero.

When I was just 2 years old, my parents got divorced and that is when my mom became a single mom. It was very hard on her to not be able to take care of her girls and to have to work in order to pay the bills. Since my mom had lost both of her parents to cancer before she was 30, my grandmother from my dad’s side would take care of us. I remember being just a little girl and looking outside the window every day waiting for my mom to come home so that I could see her. She usually would come home around 8, extremely exhausted and would sleep with us every night in one bed since there was only three girls in one room. At 5 years old, living in an all girl dominated household was like a movie to me. I remember spending our weekends jumping on the beds while dancing to spice girls, N’SYNC, and Brittny Spears. We would wear matching pink ladies jackets and have PJ parties every night. I loved living us three girls so much that I hated visiting my dads house. Things especially made a turn for the worst when my dad introduced a 25 year old woman to me who was soon to be my stepmom. At just 5 years old, I already know she was nothing like my mom and could never compare to her.  Eventually, the conflict at my dad’s house just led me to spend more time at my mom’s.

When I got a little older and became a pre-teen, my mom was my best friend. She influenced greatly the person I am today. Because of all those nights that we spent listening to her favorite 70s and 80s music, she introduced me to a huge part of my life: music. I inherited her fun and bubbly personality. But, then came my teenage years.

My teenage years were really hard on me. I was extremely overweight when I was 14 and felt out of place. At home, both my mom and my sister had perfect bodies and I was always the chubby one. I had always danced and I thought that the perfect solution was to join a dance studio. But, things didn’t go exactly as I planned. I was told at my dance studio that I was too fat and dancers couldn’t be fat. My dance teachers would call me out about my weight in front of everyone and inside it would really affect me. I was constantly embarrassed in front of everyone, and at first, I felt like my mom didn’t believe me. But one day, after my mom had witnessed it firsthand, she along with other parents, stood up for me. To know that I had so many people who had my back, all thanks to my mom, was the best feeling ever. After a lot of hard work, I lost the weight with the help of my mom. My goal after this was to make it to the dance team. I remember the amazing feeling of accomplishment I had when I saw my name on the list of the freshman who made it. I called my mom and told her and that night we celebrated. That moment I was so grateful to have her in my life because I know without her, I would’ve never been able to do it.

Even though I still am not the most confident person and struggle with insecurities about my weight, I have learned a lot from my mom. She has taught me to forget about all the dumb things everyone says about you which is the best advice anyone could give you in high school. I am so proud of the person she is. She is currently writing a book that is soon to be published on how to deal with divorce and handle two girls. By writing his book she has shown me that in life sometimes your hardest times can lead to your biggest successes. I would be nothing today without my mom and I hope that one day when I am older, I can be just like her. She is my superhero.


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